"A good conversation is one of life's most pleasurable experiences. In a good conversation all parties carefully attend and respond to one another in a kind of multi-sensory dance where each comes away with a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment. As human beings we seek connection and understanding. There is nothing quite like the feeling of having been deeply seen, heard, acknowledged and understood." - Robert L. Lindstrom
Conversation is one of the best ways we have of learning about rabbits, contributing to the rabbit community, exchanging ideas, helping our rabbit culture evolve in positive ways, and strengthening relationships and friendships. You might remember I referred to the really good conversation we had at dinner in Pennsylvania recently. I've been giving it some thought and here are some of the reasons I think the conversation was so very good.
First, almost everyone at the table contributed to the conversation. I won't say that the floor was equally divided, but neither was it dominated by a single individual.
Second, participants listened with respect. Ideas were allowed to be shared without having them slaughtered them moment they were born. Although not every idea gets to live a long, fruitful life, I believe that ideas should be able to survive their infancy, to see how they develop. Sometimes they spark another, even better idea. But they can't do that if they are attacked early on. And the generation of ideas will soon cease altogether if they are not allowed to survive - at least for awhile.
Third, even touchy topics could be discussed because speakers took neither an attacking nor a defensive posture. Speakers who resort to either being offensive or overly defensive will often lose their credibility, regardless of the validity of their viewpoint. By talking about issues rather than discrediting speakers, or going on a counter attack, more ideas can be shared and more hearers will become listeners.
Fourth, the attitude of the conversation was from a position of enjoyment, positive solutions, fun what-ifs, and a mutually supportive atmosphere. Conversations work better when the participants do not feel that they must persuade everyone that their view is correct (especially if it is only their view that is correct!). Issues can be left unresolved. Participants can go away with food for thought. Sometimes, I find that thinking back over a really good conversation is almost as good as the conversation itself.Rabbit shows, club meetings, Judges Conferences, and casual rabbit people get-togethers are all wonderful opportunities for really good conversations about rabbits.
Be willing to contribute and be willing to listen. Talk about issues. Entertain the possibilities. Dream aloud. It's just another way to enjoy our wonderful hobby.
Laurie Stroupe
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